tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post2993646625452478099..comments2024-02-09T07:54:14.606-05:00Comments on Kimm's Korner: Tuesday Talk...Kimmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-2332644432731460432016-04-16T06:15:39.578-04:002016-04-16T06:15:39.578-04:00Thanks Betsy! And yes Aj has been getting some ni...Thanks Betsy! And yes Aj has been getting some nice fish lately. It sure makes me happy seeing them taking a much needed break from iPhones and video games! Have a great weekend ! Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-57600858700280717762016-04-15T23:40:26.357-04:002016-04-15T23:40:26.357-04:00There is nothing more fun than families being toge...There is nothing more fun than families being together! Life is hard enough and having family nearby lightens the load. And wow, that is one giant fish! Go AJ, go!! What a great way to take a break from the screens our teens all love!Betsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12876031576447608959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-76125399765088506472016-04-14T17:19:13.164-04:002016-04-14T17:19:13.164-04:00Hi Joan! I totally appreciate your feelings. Than...Hi Joan! I totally appreciate your feelings. Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to comment Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-79382563515588340182016-04-14T17:11:02.894-04:002016-04-14T17:11:02.894-04:00I don't necessarily disagree with your decisio...I don't necessarily disagree with your decision about your son, my beef is with your sharing of so much of your personal, private, family information on the internet. I feel there are boundaries that should be adhered to whether the individual you are posting about says it's ok or not!joanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16614224994007065829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-62300383891132076502016-04-13T18:03:01.620-04:002016-04-13T18:03:01.620-04:00Thank you Lisa! I totally agree that regardless o...Thank you Lisa! I totally agree that regardless of what we chose to do they would find something "wrong" with it and let me know it. I respect everyone's opinion I just wish people were not so mean. Thanks again!!! Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-43429633358229682342016-04-13T17:33:17.613-04:002016-04-13T17:33:17.613-04:00Just wanted to offer some support, not everyone si...Just wanted to offer some support, not everyone sits in judgement behind the anonymity of a computer screen, these negative commenters seem classless to me.<br /><br />The ironic thing is that if you had posted something in regards to your son hitting a rough patch but you guys just said 'well, you're an adult Harrison, good luck!' and washed your hands of him then these commenters would have a huge problem with that too. You'll never win and I admire that you post the truth regardless of the opinions people will voice!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04985191517818183774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-51607912942124929042016-04-13T16:45:19.053-04:002016-04-13T16:45:19.053-04:00Thanks Lisa! Yea people are very harsh and very o...Thanks Lisa! Yea people are very harsh and very opinionated and seem to know what's best for my family;). Legally an adult means nothing to me....Harrison just turned 20 in December, he is young and nothing wrong, in my opinion, letting him live home for a while! Thanks for stopping by today!! Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-81837095735755776772016-04-13T16:37:49.088-04:002016-04-13T16:37:49.088-04:00My daughter is 18 ( a winter birthday) and still a...My daughter is 18 ( a winter birthday) and still a senior in high school. While she is responsible and frugal and is on her way to becoming an adult, I would hardly call her one! Legally, maybe; mentally; nowhere near ready to be on her own. <br />These commenters need to relax, Kimm! How judgemental people can be is beyond me. <br /><br />I made some bad choices in my early twenties, thank goodness my mom was there for me and helped me find my way or who knows where I would be! Seems like that's all you are doing for your son, helping him find his way. <br /><br />A 20 year old college student can go home without judgement on breaks and weekends; why can't a 20 year old working person do the same? At 20, your son has a lifetime to be on his own, good for you for continuing to teach him!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04985191517818183774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-44884352127931280132016-04-13T13:22:49.021-04:002016-04-13T13:22:49.021-04:00Someone told me they pray I have a plan for my lit...Someone told me they pray I have a plan for my little kids because I am 0-2 on my adult ones ;). People are crazy. That's all;) Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-74129591645859689882016-04-13T13:16:13.868-04:002016-04-13T13:16:13.868-04:00I cringe thinking that you have worse comments tha...I cringe thinking that you have worse comments that the above two I mentioned. They don't even have the courage to leave their real name! Lol. Totally agree with you on not wanting a 30 year old living at home and the free spending ways of youth. We have 3 at home still. The above mentioned 22 year old, and a 19 and 16 year old. All are boys with jobs and two part time students. There are good and bad days and my grocery bill is very high, but, I wouldn't ask anyone to leave right now. I know it's only a matter of time and in a few years it will probably be my husband, myself and maybe one at home. I believe that we are parenting well and having 2 "adults" at home still doesn't make us bad parents. I have health issues that make me unable to do as much as I can some days. I'm thankful to be able to do what I can for my boys and have them at home. Everyone's situation is different and you never know what life will hand you.I wish <br />people wouldn't be so mean. There's nothing accomplished by it except hate. stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15435256333173773145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-84957741882438416352016-04-13T11:11:44.339-04:002016-04-13T11:11:44.339-04:00Hi Steph. Thank you for your comment. I am all f...Hi Steph. Thank you for your comment. I am all for constructive criticism, and for the most part I do publish comments, however some fo the truly hate filled ones I just delete. Harrison is a great kid, but he is YOUNG...no parent wants to see their child struggling. He gave it a try, and realized that he can better himself by coming home for a time, and saving as much money as he can. As for budgeting, that comment was laughable, how I spend my money has NO bearing on anything. We have always preached to our children, even the little boys, how important it is to save for a rainy day. It was our opinion that sending Harrison a check for a new car really wasn't solving anything. As for our house being full of adult children...again pretty funny. Yes Brooke still lives with us, I am all for letting them live home for a while, work, pay their own bills, but have the opportunity to save so they can move out when they are ready. I really don't want them having to move back home when they are 30. Our hope is by giving them this opportunity to live home now, they will have some money in the bank and when they are ready to get out in the real world, financially they will be ok when those bumps in the road happen, because we all know that they do. Kudos to you for having your step-son live with you. As parents we do what we can to help our children, and what works for one may not work for someone else, and that is OK...it is the sheer lack of respect so many of these people have. Again, thank you for taking the time read and comment. I know not everyone is always going to agree with me, and that is OK..it is nice to know there are people like you, who can share your different opinion without being disrespectful and just mean and intentionally hurtful! Have a great dayKimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-68691321767396801102016-04-13T10:44:04.346-04:002016-04-13T10:44:04.346-04:00Wow! Some really offensive responses on here. I...Wow! Some really offensive responses on here. I'm glad you posted them for us to see. I'm all for constructive criticism, especially when you chose to write a public blog and include your family, but, some of these people are very mean and rude! The anonymous comments @ 6:25 am and 1:07 pm are terrible. I've disagreed with Kimm before and posted my comments on here without totally attacking her. I would hardly call it a "disservice" and "not normal" for a 20 year old to move back home for awhile. I don't think living at home in order to save money is so bad, after all he is working. I would give him a time frame of a couple years before he has to move out. I'm appalled that someone would judge you saying that you don't know how to budget based on this situation.i agree he probably should of set aside an emergency fund its pretty hard to tell a young person that and now he will see why. I don't think it would have been a bad decision to bail him out with a loan for the car if it was a one time thing. I'm guessing the choice to move back home wasn't only because of the lack of money for the car. As for the comments about your house being full and other adult child living at home I would like to offer the this.... We have a similar situation where my 22 year old step-son had to move back home. It's not forever, and our home isn't that big. He is working full time and trying to better himself after going through some very serious issues which he has overcome. He is in the process of saving money so he can move out in a year or two.stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15435256333173773145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-46610585180815108892016-04-13T06:49:23.468-04:002016-04-13T06:49:23.468-04:00Thanks Elaine ! Thanks Elaine ! Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-28273856477954319952016-04-13T01:26:01.043-04:002016-04-13T01:26:01.043-04:00Kimm I can understand where you are coming from fo...Kimm I can understand where you are coming from for sure! While having him back home will be nice for everyone, it also comes at the price of some loss of freedom for him - something that would not have happened had he made better choices. Don't let people get you down. EVERYONE makes mistakes and I personally feel that everyone deserves some grace. I feel that is exactly what you are doing with Harrison. You could have told him "sorry - you just have to figure it out!" but instead you are allowing him to kind of have a do over, which is great! Don't feel badly for family decisions - if they work for you all, that is what matters! Xoxolive compassionatelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07929392692148971127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-12175345511288625512016-04-12T23:21:09.752-04:002016-04-12T23:21:09.752-04:00Hugs to you because people are mean :( only you an...Hugs to you because people are mean :( only you and Harrison can decide what's best for him. Elaine Weltehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16795714631350639303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-10358780508322022582016-04-12T20:01:58.711-04:002016-04-12T20:01:58.711-04:00Hi Lauren. I saw that quote floating on IG not lon...Hi Lauren. I saw that quote floating on IG not long ago too! I see nothing wrong with a child living home to save money. I would much rather my son stay here save money and be in a position to maybe buy something in a few years ! I appreciate your kind words.Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-20477099394831156442016-04-12T19:54:23.378-04:002016-04-12T19:54:23.378-04:00I saw a picture once that reminds me of your situa...I saw a picture once that reminds me of your situation - it said something like "how can we expect high school graduates to be adults when just last year they had to ask permission to use the bathroom." Some of the commenters here are making it seem like you are doing him a disservice by having him live at home when it's going to help him. I lived at home straight thru college and shortly afterwards and needed to, otherwise I'd never have a down payment for a house. My parents didn't officially charge me rent but I was responsible for my own bills and chipped in all the time with groceries and such. You're doing the right thing by saying you won't just buy him a new car but allow him a place to stay to save up. :) We can't expect kids to grow up immediately once they turn 18, you know?Lauren Donoghuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09247482079659447039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-59025463126009343492016-04-12T16:20:28.582-04:002016-04-12T16:20:28.582-04:00It doesn't matter if someone agrees with me or...It doesn't matter if someone agrees with me or not. How boring if we all agreed on everything in life. Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-4633207847022011172016-04-12T16:16:10.527-04:002016-04-12T16:16:10.527-04:00I wasn't nasty or rude. I was simply expressin...I wasn't nasty or rude. I was simply expressing my opinion on a public blog post. You only think it's rude because people don't agree with you. Maybe you should borrow some of Harrison's thick skin.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-27479457127206811322016-04-12T16:15:51.643-04:002016-04-12T16:15:51.643-04:00If it was only that easy...to turn 18 and be ready...If it was only that easy...to turn 18 and be ready to make out there in the world. People say it's hard raising babies...my opinion those are the easy years...it's these young adult years that prove to be the most challenging. We love him, and want him to succeed...we are doing what we feel is best. Thanks for stopping by today Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-67769822035028903322016-04-12T16:13:33.006-04:002016-04-12T16:13:33.006-04:00It's no secret I miss him...however this isn&#...It's no secret I miss him...however this isn't a ploy to get him home. This is the best way we can help him , writing him a check and buying him a new car isn't helping him or teaching him anything, that is our opinion. I know many parents feel differently, and I respect that. At the end of the day I want him to be happy, and I know that struggling to just get by and never get on your feet is definitely not happiness. And yes it'll be tough coming back home after having lots of freedom ;) have a great day Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-72001321483994895812016-04-12T16:11:01.858-04:002016-04-12T16:11:01.858-04:00We certainly don't live in a sprawling home, t...We certainly don't live in a sprawling home, that being said we can comfortably house Harrison. I guess he could have moved in with his father , however is choice was to be here with us. Thank you for stopping by Kimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816089312046034140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-64871944668395840692016-04-12T15:52:04.717-04:002016-04-12T15:52:04.717-04:00I'm surprised at how many people think once yo...I'm surprised at how many people think once you turn 18 you should be completely on your own with no help or guidance. Our society does not prepare children to turn into adults at 18. Yes parents can do the best they can, but as a "village" we are not. Senior year in high school is all about preparing for college, vocational school, etc, not for living 100% on your own. So those late teen early 20s are really for figuring this all out, and the more family and friends that can emotionally support you through this, the better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-3576370507114519052016-04-12T15:23:42.361-04:002016-04-12T15:23:42.361-04:00Your doing what's best for your son Kimm. I gu...Your doing what's best for your son Kimm. I guess everyone is assuming that you not helping him out is your way of getting him to come back home! He will definitely learn his lesson when he loses that sweet freedom that he has grown accustomed to :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4202509439298990127.post-40764654258884184412016-04-12T15:12:14.377-04:002016-04-12T15:12:14.377-04:00Hi Kimm,
I understand the "gotta do what you...Hi Kimm,<br /><br />I understand the "gotta do what you gotta do" mentality. However, haven't you stated before that your home is pretty cramped as is? I just really hope that what space your younger children have isn't compromised. Why would he not live with his father if moving back in with parents was his only option? I know your oldest daughter loves with you as well. At any rate, best of luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com