Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Tuesday Talk

Happy Tuesday Ladies
 
 
Seriously this was my day yesterday...one of the WORST days I have had in a really long time!
 
I had every intention of starting 2016 out AWESOME...I had it all planned out in my head, this year was going to be my year, and I was going to start it off with a bang!  My kids went back to school last Wednesday after being home almost 3 weeks for Christmas vacation, I loved having them home, but was definitely ready for a routine again!  Last week was kind of a wash for me, I spent the few days they were back at school cleaning up and getting our house somewhat put back together after the holidays...what a crappy job that is!  So I told myself I was going to basically start fresh yesterday, January 11, I always like to start things on a Monday!  My plan was to get up early, have some quiet time, get the lunches packed, get the kiddos up, drop them all to school, go workout and then go about my day, that was going to be my schedule during the week! 
 
So had did my Monday start....well I never heard my alarm go off, and I was woken up at like 10 by Jack over my bed asking if they were going to school....seriously...not even lying!  And what did I do...say no we are not going to school today, and I rolled back over.  I have never ever done that before..so we spent the day home, doing nothing, and I can't say it was anything other than laziness on my part that they didn't go to school yesterday, and I am fully prepared for the rash of comments that will come my way of what a horrible mother I am, and how irresponsible I am...I am ready!  I'm just not sure what my deal was yesterday, I was in a funk all day, feeling sad, randomly crying, it was just odd...I was feeling super depressed and I am not even sure why! 
 
It's been no secret that I have been struggling with our move, and I often get super sad about being so far away from what I consider "home".  For the most part I am adjusting and learning to love our new life, but damn it is seriously a slow process!  I can't even say for sure if that was what had me feeling so blah yesterday..it was just weird.   I have always been kind of a "control freak", and I have felt so out of control, if that makes sense, since we moved back in October. 
 
This is my current view as I am typing this post...it's 5:30 Monday evening, I am still in my pajamas, I am sitting outside, enjoying wine and blogging...I did manage to make some homemade soup for dinner, but seriously that is about it.  A total unproductive day, a day of feeling sad and weepy all day, and I haven't a clue as to why!  I am anxiously awaiting for Mark to get home, he can always snap me out of feeling sad..he is good like that!
 
I am hoping to get a good nights sleep and ready to kick some ass Tuesday!  
 
If anyone else ever sometimes feels this way, leave me a comment and let me know what you do to snap yourself out of your funk!  Enjoy your day today!  See you back here tomorrow!
 
 

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  1. Give yourself a break, go for a walk, workout and if you're not feeling better see your family doctor. Lots of hugs and hopes for a better Tuesday.

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    1. Thanks for your kind words ! Have a great day!

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  2. Aww I'm so sorry you had an "off" day! Don't beat yourself up though. When I am feeling that way, I set really small goals for myself. Like tomorrow I am going to go to work, make dinner, and do one load of laundry and that's it. Also just a suggestion but maybe your boys are old enough to have their own alarm clock? That could help as far as mornings go!! Anyway I hope today is a better day :)

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    1. The boys have their iPhones yet they turn their alarms off all the time. I may go get them a real alarm clock, and place it on their dresser so they actually have to get up to turn it off. Great idea! Have a great day!

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  3. Oh no :( I have those days too, I think we all do. Just chalk it up to a bad day and make today awesome! No mama judgement here, things happen! Much love Kimm!

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  4. Hi Kimm. We all have our days! Regardless of when that day falls on is out of our control. That said, your transition may get easier if you find a great group of girlfriends...be it through school, volunteering, women's group at church, etc. it's always nice to have girl time and someone (other than Mark) to talk with. Hope your day is better and that your kids will see that even when you're down, it's always best to get back up!

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    1. Hi there ! My post Tmw is acruelly about meeting new friends ! Thanks for stopping by today. Have a great day!

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  5. No judgement. I'm sorry your feeling sad and if this is more than a day or two you may think about counseling or medications. Only saying that because I have been there. Hugs to you and a better day tomorrow

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    1. Thanks so much! I guess the good thing is I am aware of it and thankfully smart enough to know if I don't start feeling better I need to talk to someone. Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment today. Have a great day!

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  6. We all have those days when we feel like we blew it. For me, I pick myself up, praise God that His mercies are new every morning and resolve to do some things differently the next day. That said, there was a period in my life when I felt like I needed to speak to a counselor about some issues I was having, and she was a great help to me. I needed an outsider's perspective and suggestions to help me process and move past a hard, hard time. If it's more than just a funk, or if you feel like no matter what you just can't move forward in a good place, there's NO SHAME in needing to talk to someone. It's healthy. Hugs to you.

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    1. Hey girl! I went through some pretty heavy stuff over the summer and if it wasn't for an awesome counselor I'm not sure where I would be right now! Thank you for taking the time to stop by today. Xoxo

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  7. I'm so sorry! I'm a stay at home mom of 3. I know it can be lonely at times. I used to work full time and now I'm able to stay at home. I try my best to workout at the gym or at home 3 times a week. If I don't workout, I try to walk in my neighborhood. I do this on M,W,F. I always feel great afterwards! It really helps my mindset. On T and Th, I run my errands and do my housework. I meet up with friends for lunch, coffee or just go walking with them. I try to eat lunch with my kids at school when I can. I volunteer in their classrooms weekly. Teachers ALWAYS need help and I enjoy the interaction with the other moms in the workroom. No teacher will ever turn down help! I love going on field trips! I sometimes have lunch dates with my husband. We enjoy this since we don't have to get a babysitter! I attend bible study 1 day a week. On weekends my 6 yr old twins have indoor soccer and my 11 yr old has basketball. I enjoy talking to the other parents and planning get together's. Maybe Olivia or the boys invite a friend over after school? That would be a good way to meet other parents. What about inviting some of Mark's work friends over for dinner? That way you could get to know some of their wives. I have friends that work part-time a few hrs a week while their kids are at school. They enjoy the social interaction. My girlfriend is a stay at home mom but keeps a baby a few times a week and does photography on the side. She loves the extra income! She has also met SO many families doing this.

    I will eventually go back to working whether it be full time or part time, but for now I soak up the time I have with my family and friends. I would also suggest the boys have an alarm clock. That way you can make them accountable for waking themselves up while you get Olivia ready. Sorry for rambling! I hope you have a great day! Things will get better. Hugs to you! : )

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  8. When we made a big move I too struggled. Have you ever looked Into 5htp? Just from the amount of sleep and Adult beverages you share about on here - it seems like you might be suffering from mild depression. I'm no doctor just sharing my thoughts! Hang in there! Read about it on amazon. It really helps! I still use it in the blaa winter months!

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    1. I'll check it out. However I consume one glass of one a night, I didn't think that was a large amount to consume

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  9. We all have those days--don't be too hard on yourself. It was brave to share this on your blog! I think lazy days are essential for our wellbeing but in my own life, they are best taken when I'm feeling my emotional best/strongest. When I am feeling down even though the very last thing I want to do is be productive, it almost always helps me. So typically if I'm having a hard time, I force myself to tackle one manageable task--whether it is cleaning up the kitchen or doing one load of laundry. Getting some exercise, even a short walk makes me feel better too. Obviously these are no substitutes for talking with a counselor or taking medication. But if it a bit of a malaise, summoning up that extra energy reserve can help. Did you feel better after you made the soup?

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  10. Everyone deserves a mental health day! Sending you hugs!

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    1. Her mental health DAYS should have been when her kids were off for the holidays!

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    2. I never said it was a mental health day, I said I overslept!

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    3. Ok this pisses me off! Here in the south, we call the "extra day we need" as a mental health day. I meant nothing ugly by it and simply meant that it's okay to take an extra day off to stay in bed, go to the store, or whatever a person needs to do. I tell my boss all the time that I'm taking a mental health day which means I'm taking a PERSONAL DAY OFF!! I would like to think that Kimm decided to take a PERSONAL DAY OFF!! So what if it's right after Christmas?! My God! If I were you, Kimm, I would make my account private and only for those people you want to read your blog, and not put up with this BS!!

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  11. Sometimes you just need a day off! Don't sweat it at all!! Hang in there, friend!

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    1. A day off? Didn't they just go back from like a month off on Christmas break?! Come on!

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    2. Why yes we did just get back from Christmas break.

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  12. I just happened to pop on the blog hop today and this one makes me sad. You are SUCH a good mom, Kimm!! I hate that you were having such a sad day yesterday - but we all have them. Do not apologize for it and don't feel bad about what happened. Just pick yourself back up today and start fresh, that's all we can do! Be the rockstar that you are and it will be a great day!! Hugs, friend!!

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    1. Thanks girl. And I'm loving all the pics of those babies. So adorable !!!

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  13. Give yourself some grace girl. I agree with the others - change can be HARD & it may just be that it randomly hit you yesterday. We are all human and we all have days like that. When I am in a funk I try to do go something I enjoy or hang out with friends or my hubby. Thank you for being so transparent - I know that wasn't easy to do! Sometimes talking it out helps so much!

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  14. Look at it this way-your kids probably thought it was one of the best days ever! I'm sure my son would not mind a free day. Forgive yourself and don't worry about it. I think this time of year is hard and just give yourself a little slack. Hugs, Lisa G., McKinney, TX

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  15. You've got to pull yourself together friend! You aren't just neglecting yourself but also your kids and what kind of example are you setting for them. So many questions here and I hope you get yourself some help. And what did your husband think about you oversleeping, letting your kids miss school, in your pajamas and drinking at 5? I'm not being smart when I say tho so truly mean that I'll be praying for you and your situation.

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    1. I guess we didn't make a huge deal about it, sometimes we just oversleep. And I drink one glass of wine every single night as I am sure many others do!

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    2. Oh but see I think you are making a big deal about it by blogging about it. The normal thing to do would have been get your kids ready for school late or not & do your job as a parent not say no school today and roll back over. Your the one putting this out on a blog for the world to see so expect some criticism as you said you were.

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    3. I wasn't really making a big deal about it, it is what it is. I don't mind criticism, what I mind are rude nasty people. I know I'm not the only mom out there to have ever done this, hey sometimes these things happen...you roll with it and move on and that's just what I did. Hope you have a great day!

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  16. I totally understand depression and it sounds like you might be experiencing some situational depression. But for the sake of your kids….make sure they get to school somehow. Maybe Mark can take them til this funk passes. Also, think about a counselor. They can help during times like this. I hope you feel better soon.

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    1. Yes I was definitely feeling a bit blah yesterday for sure ! Thanks for stopping by

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  17. I can't believe everyone is saying this is ok. You're teaching your kids that they don't have to do things if they don't feel up for it (missing church, then missing school the next day). I'm not being rude saying this (I guess it'll come off that way) but I really feel there's a depression and alcoholism going on. Many of your posts are about sleeping until 11 or noon and then drinking early evening.

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    1. I appreciate you taking the time to comment however pone glass of wine a night is not what I consider alcoholism. And you're right missing church, oversleeping and not getting up for school or work isn't ok, I'm not saying it is, what I am saying is that it happens. As for us sleeping in...I'm not gonna lie or apologize for it. My kids have always been great sleepers. The boys are teenagers now so it's pretty typical of them sleeping in pretty late, and as for Olivia if she doesn't have to be up for school she will easily sleep until 10-11...and I'm not sorry for takin full advantage of it! Yesterday obviously I overslept, however most days during the week I am up at around 6/630 so yea on the weekends if we can we are sleeping in;)

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    2. Does Olivia have a set bedtime? How much sleep is she getting a night? My daughter goes to bed at 730 all school year (weekends included) which means she's up by 7 every day. Everyone needs a schedule and I think sometimes waking up at 6 and sometimes sleeping until noon will mess you up. I think kids function best on a schedule

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  18. Oh man, I can soooo relate to days like this!!!! Someone mentioned it already, but I too set a small goal, like 2 loads of laundry or clean out a drawer, just little things that give me some momentum to keep going. Don't feel bad about it and don't worry if others judge you. Your kids love you tons obviously and you are a great mom!

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    1. Thanks! It's crazy how some people act...like no one has just overslept before. Lol. I don't really feel bad about, hey it happens. It was nice to wake up today feeling great and ready to tackle the day

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    2. Yes we've all slept in before but the proper response should've been jumping out of bed and getting them to school, late or not. You rolled over and said no school. THAT is the problem.

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    3. Yup I sure did. It is what it is and it's certainly not a problem...I'm sure my kids really aren't going tonsured greatly from it. But info appreciate your opinion

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    4. It's me anon 1:17 again - Missing a day of school (or a few) isn't going to negatively impact the kids. If it were once a week, then maybe it's an issue. Once itself is not a problem. I think we all need to extend each other a little bit of grace. No one's perfect, and it's always brave of bloggers to put themselves out there with real life rather than the fake white picket fence life that some do.

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    5. I can honestly say that in 23 years of being a mom this is the first time it happened. Our life isn't perfect white picket fence by any means. I'm human, and hey it happened ! Thanks for your kind words

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  19. Kimm,

    I think we can all relate to lazy days and having the winter blahs. However, not even having the energy to get out of bed to take your kids to school crosses the line into some pretty concerning territory. I'm also saying as someone who loves wine - I have never slept through an alarm and can easily get up to start my day. I know many people who drink glass a day and we're not sleeping until 11 a.m. the way you're frequently mentioning. This seems pretty serious and I hope you will consider getting some help.

    Laura

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  20. Kimm,
    I am sorry that you have been feeling down lately. Your recent move to Florida must have been a huge change and it is always hard setting down new roots. That being said, I think that seeing a counselor would be beneficial, as well as joining a club/activity to meet new girlfriends! It can be as simple as volunteering at Olivia's school, joining a Bible study at church, or taking an exercise class at your local gym. I completely understand that it can be hard to put yourself out there; I myself had a lot of trouble making new friends when I first went off to college 3 years ago. However, keeping yourself busy helps IMMENSELY with your mood, because you don't have time to do "stinkin' thinkin'" ;) Everyone has off days, that is completely normal. However, I just hope that you can nip this in the bud so that you can go back to your normal, spunky self!
    Take Care,
    Molly

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  21. One glass of one? Hmmm?

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  22. When do you guys get your new furniture? That's exciting right?! Can't wait to see pics!

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  23. Hey Kimm, maybe you could enlist the help of Brooke on the rare occasion that you want to sleep in? I understand having those days, but school always need to be the priority. That really isn't a matter of opinion type deal, it's one of the most important things in their life. Would you ever miss a sporting event? Please don't make your kids suffer of your issues. They are adult issues and should be dealt with accordingly. Also, did your hubby not care about any of this?

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    1. Hey there ! No mark wasn't concerned, I guess if it happened often he would be, but in 23 years of being a mom it only happened just once so we aren't concerned ;). It was an off day, and everyone has now assumed I have issues! So much for keeping it real that I was having a bad day!

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    2. Thank you for being real. I read your blog everyday and love that you are honest and relatable. I read a lot of blogs and often feel like they paint a picture of a perfect life. Hang in there. Hopefully you feel better soon. p.s. I love wine. I drink one (or two) glasses almost every night.

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  24. I already commented above, but I've had a lot of "hurry up and wait" time today, so I'm back to read the comments again - you have to admit the reactions are entertaining. I find it really interesting that so many people think you have major issues. My first reaction was "I hear ya sista!" since I've had days like this too. It never crossed my mind that you had a serious problem. Obviously with your move it's even more understandable that you might feel this way from time to time. Has no one else had off days where you're just in a funk??? Maybe I've just been there, done that with too many things in this life to be so "worried" about you. :)

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    1. It went from me sharing my shitty day to me having severe depression and I'm an alcoholic. Lol!

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  25. You still are avoiding the question about your older daughter that she asked you about.

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    1. Gosh certainly wasn't avoiding anything, there has been so many comments it hard to keep track, seeing as I am back to full functioning today;). Anyway, yes Brooke lives with us, however she has her own job and it certainly isn't her responsibility to get the kids ready. Can you even imagine the hate I would receive if I had her help me out...yikes

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    2. If you read your blog, it's evident that you utilize your older children more than you're willing to admit. You & Mark had several "weekenders" when your kids weren't present. I'm not referring to when they were with your dad either. Just stop being so defensive. YOU are the one who put your life out that knowing what would ensue.

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    3. Yes we have "utilized" them for sure, and I don't feel bad or guilty about it. I'm really not being defensive but this was just a real honest post about having a bad day, and it has turned out that I'm a bad mom and an alcoholic. People accusing me of drinking and driving. I mean what's scary here is that people read something and make such a long issue over something that doesn't even exist

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  26. I think the problem most of the nagative commenters have is about missing school. I have three children and there have been days that I didn't want to get up and take them to school. That's completely normal. There have been days that I took them to school, came home, and did very little else until time to pick them up. Again, completely normal. What's not normal is sleeping through the alarm AND refusing to get up and take your children to school.
    I think readers are concerned for you. No one expects to read a mommy blog that's about a 100% perfect life. This seems a little more than a bad day though. You get very defensive when people mention your drinking, yet you mention it tons. I don't know if you are an alcoholic or not, so no accusations from me. I will mention that you seem to really look forward to times when you're drinking, you sleep way more than any adult I've heard of, you've written about drinking too much on a couple of occasions, and you're really defensive. A little therapy might be a good thing?
    Hoping your week gets better. I mean this sincerely.

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  27. Not to mention your children leaving beer for Santa and this year your daughter wanted to pretend there was no fireball because she was worried about drinking and driving. My 7 year old niece doesn't even know what drinking and driving is. That's also worrisome that a child that young is aware AND concerned about that. Obviously it's something she was once exposed to.

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    1. Ok anonymous I don't know if you are a mom or not, but you have way overstepped here. I have never once even had a glass of wine and gotten in my car. Most kids know about drinking and driving, I mean they teach it in elementary school for gods sake. What's worry some is how completely stupid people are

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    2. Um, my kids are 8 and 10 and know about drinking and driving and drugs and what getting drunk and high mean and why it's not good. One of my kids was 6 when someone at school told him what sex was in gesphic detail. And now that he's in 5th grade, you wouldn't believe what the kids hear. And we live in a "good" area. Because we've been always age-appropriately open, he tells me everything and we can add our input. Get your heads out of your *&%es people!!! If you don't have natural conversations with your kids, they will find out from someone at school. Stop being so naive and sheltered!! And stop accusing Kimm of these nonsense problems! It's just ridiculous!

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    3. And yes, these commenters must not be parents or they segregate themselves in their little churchy Christian worlds.

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    4. When I typed this post I never expected all this BS. We had a bad day, not sure how it all spiraled from that! Lol

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  28. If moms who talk about looking forward to a glass of wine, or even a girls night out involving more than one glass of wine(!!!), are considered alcoholics, then my kids' school is full of alcoholic moms. We must be bad bad mommies.

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  29. I think if this were a random occasion for you, it would be much more relatable. Heck, you may get some "amens" and "I hear ya's!" But look at it logically, Kimm. The majority of your posts are either drinking, sleeping in, eating crap fast food and staying in your pajamas all day. These are traits more in line with a college student. Not a 40 something mom taking care of 3 young children. Who wants their kids sleeping all the time? I know it seems normal to you, but I assure you, it's anything but. An occasional lazy day is one thing, but when it becomes your overall lifestyle, there's definitely something not right. I'm sure you won't publish this comment, but nonetheless, you should definitely at least reflect upon it. I really do hope you're able to make lifestyle changes that will enhance the quality of your family time.

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    1. This was a complete random occasion, as I have mentioned many times. Our life is jam packed, so when we have the opportunity to be lazy, we are. I'm not sure where the majority of these posts are that you are talking about. And i seriously wish our overall lifestyle was lazy!

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    2. Your life is jam packed? Really??? Lol. All you blog about is how you just relax on the weekends, stay in your jammies, drink coffee or wine, have a buffet of pretzels/chips/chick-f-la platters (or mark fries up something) , watch tv, repeat. Oh with an occasional trip to the discount store. If your life truly is that busy, blog about that!!!! Not all this junk that gives you such backlash when that's all these people have to go on. Smh

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  30. I think too, that a lot of your posts revolve around drinking (the concerts & events you attend with your husband), looking forward to your nightly glass of wine, sleeping in late (a lot it seems), laying around and watching Hallmark movies and then your husband comes home and makes dinner. It may not seem like it to you, but I can see where people are getting certain idea'and impressions. Perhaps you don't realize it, but if you look back at a lot of your posts, these seem to be a constant theme. I'm not saying you have a problem or are a bad mother, but I can see where people might think this based on your posts. I hope your day today was better and the rest of your week goes smoothly!

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    1. Yes we love going to concerts, we want to four last summer. During the holidays we love watching hallmark movies and my husband loves to cook, and he is a great cook. I do see where people could think that, however it's just odd they make such crazy accusations Our day today was good, thanks for asking.it was back to business as usual...up early, school, food shopping, homework , dinner bath and bed! Like I said it was an off day yesterday. Thank you for taking the time to comment ! Have a great night !

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  31. Kimm, don't dish it if you can't take it. Bottom line. Your blog is a cluster of new pj's and your nightly wine. Other than that, your viewers no zero about you. Put out only what you want portrayed. You can't get mad at the comments when we only know what is presented to us.

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  32. What a freaking shit storm! I doubt that if Kimm had a legit problem, she'd be blogging about it. C'mon people. It's so easy for so many of you to gang up on her because she puts her life out there and it isn't what you deem "appropriate". Have some grace and stop casting stones.

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  33. Keep on being you, Kimm! You can't win for losing and vise versa! I can't believe grown women are acting like this. Love your blog and your TRUTH. Own it! These crazies know not a thing about you. Don't change any aspect of yours or your blog based on comments from a single post. #hatersgonnahate

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    1. WOW! I miss one post and people are going crazy like a shit storm happened! I think a lot of these people need to take a breath and step away from the computer! For goodness sake, go worry about all the idiots running for president!!! Find a hobby. And by hobby I don't mean "bag on Kimm today".......or wait: STOP READING HER BLOG. ok, #carryon .....keep on being real Kimm!

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  34. Hey Kimm... Sorry you had an off day. I'm just curious how late your kids go to bed? My son is Olivia's age and he will not sleep in past 7:30 any day. if I wasn't already awake he would never allow me to sleep in! Hope the week gets better :)

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    1. Olivia goes to bed at 830. The boys around 10

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  35. I cannot stop rolling my eyes at the comments that are bashing Kimm but are trying to come off as concerned. 'Being concerned'...yeah. These commenters are all coming from the same site and are ganging up on you, Kimm. How some of these women can live with themselves knowing that they are essentially bullying is beyond me. Before giving unsolicited advice on how to live, look in the mirror, ladies. If you still feel proud of how you spend your time (finding joy in making someone feel terrible) it may be time for you to call for the professional help.

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